I always loved the idea of creating a family mission statement but the task always seemed a bit daunting. Making decisions is really not something I’m particularly good at and deciding what to put into a mission statement always overwhelmed me a bit. So, like many things, it got put on the back burner and left there. Until I became desperate.
I guess there’s something about becoming a single mom that causes one to try new things. I was desperate and I knew that if my children and I were going to survive the turbulence of divorce we were going to have to pull together. We couldn’t just have each man for himself. It would take a group effort. In many ways, we had to become a team. And that’s when I became aware of the fact that we needed a family mission statement.
Then, somewhere in the process I realized that we were going to be stating the impossible. The only way our mission for our family would have a chance at becoming a reality was if we called on God together to make it happen, first and foremost in our hearts. So, our mission statement became a family prayer.
And keeping with the idea of teamwork, I decided to implement a daily family huddle that included three things:
1) Praying through our family mission along with praying for our day.
2) Praising God through singing a song or hymn together.
3) Family hugs.
This is now one of my favorite parts of the day. It’s not perfect. There are days we miss it entirely. Usually my big kids get a little rough with the family hugs and make the little one scream (and for some reason it’s always right into my ear.) Sometimes we argue over what song we’re going to sing. And yes, I said, “we.” You’re probably thinking, “Wow, this is not sounding all that enjoyable.” Some days I do wonder. 🙂
But through it all, every one of us looks forward to this tradition of coming together as a family to remember what God has called us to, to remember who we want to be, and to give Him praise for who He is and all that He’s doing in our lives.
I wish I had done it sooner and because of that, I wanted to encourage you to go ahead and pull the family together to create a family mission statement or family prayer.
I would definitely include everyone in creating it so that each member has a sense of ownership of it. We each jotted down words, scriptures, or ideas that we wanted to implement into our family life and then I built them into our prayer. It was neat to see how many of our ideas overlapped.
Just remember something is better than nothing. However imperfect, it has great potential to unite the family and keep the focus. You can always revise it later. I will share ours with you so you can get an idea of what I’m talking about and hopefully get some inspiration to make your own.
We long to love you with all our heart, soul, mind, and strength. And we know that we love you by loving each other. Give us hearts of compassion, kindness, gentleness, humility, and patience with one another. By your grace, we will support, encourage, and forgive one another through our words and our actions; overlooking each other’s weaknesses and appreciating each other’s strengths. We ask that you fill our hearts and home with the peace of Christ through thankful, prayerful hearts full of faith and saturated in Your Word. Unite our hearts as we seek Your kingdom first by serving each other, the body of Christ, and the lost world, always speaking the truth in love and living together in an understanding way.
For Your Name’s sake,
So, there you have it – encouragement for implementing a family mission statement/prayer. And go ahead and make it a family huddle while you’re at it! The huggers get their hugs and the non-huggers get to learn how to hug. 😉 Everybody wins. (Unless you’re the one with the little guy screaming in your ear. But we won’t talk about that.) 🙂 Family bonding may come at a cost, but it is so worth it!
Hugs to all of you!